We believe that trauma, and its effects, are pretty much epidemic on this planet. Quite a bold statement I guess, but our personal healing journey of 10 years so far has led us to this conclusion. As we learned about how our personal traumatic experiences had affected us we began to see the signs of trauma (especially repressed or suppressed trauma) in most people we encountered. Of course trauma can take very different forms: assaults, accidents, unhelpful parenting, bullying, loss of a loved one, domestic abuse, abandonment/rejection etc so many people would probably never describe themselves as ‘traumatised’ but the effects of those traumas can (and usually will) still be affecting their lives profoundly…often without them even realising. I intend to write another article about this rather than go in to it further on this one, so I will post the link to that here once it is done.
Our personal healing journey also showed us how difficult it is to find truly experienced (and fearless!) people to help heal these traumatic experiences. Having nearly exhausted the ‘official’ avenues for help in our home country of the UK (- a rather frustrating journey of 3-year-long waiting lists and often therapists who didn’t really understand much about the effects of trauma throughout the whole physical/mental/emotional/spiritual system) we have had to look for less conventional ways to help ourselves. The trail through ‘unofficial’ avenues for help was very interesting and has helped to varying degrees, but again seemed to fall short of creating the profound and lasting healing we were seeking. Both ‘official’ and ‘unofficial’ therapies usually consist of a weekly 50 minute or hour-long session, which is all very nice (and often quite helpful too), but what about the other 167 hours of the week? We found that, unsurprisingly, most of the trauma symptoms and affects didn’t tend to surface during the hour we were with a therapist. That hour would be very neat and polite…but the hours when the trauma DID surface were far from that, they were often terrifying/messy/emotionally intense, and we were left to attempt to be each others’ (or our own) therapist/support.
We spent a few years traveling on and off, partly as a means to try and help ourselves break free of unhelpful living patterns but also, we realised, as part of a much deeper yearning to find ‘kin’ or somewhere we felt safe enough to truly heal. True healing, sadly, doesn’t tend to happen without a breakdown of some sort; whether that be a breakdown of unhelpful belief structures or behavioural patterns or a full on mental or emotional or spiritual breakdown. Feeling ‘safe’ enough to allow that breakdown, especially if deeply traumatised, is a very different matter. The modern world can feel like a very fast-paced machine to many of us. We push on and on and we don’t have time to breakdown! And….often…we don’t have the time to cope with anyone else breaking down either. So where does this leave us all? Often very stressed out or depressed and using coping methods (such as overwork, compulsive eating, drinking alcohol/coffee, shopping, gambling, drugs (legal or illegal) zoning out in front of the tv/computer, feeding sugar addictions, computer gaming etc) to get by. These coping methods can maybe get us through, but they don’t leave us feeling very whole or satisfied in our lives and they don’t tend to allow much time for our passions and creativity to flourish.
A combination of all these factors is what has led us to our vision for the Harmoni Community. At a personal level we want to create the space that we, ourselves, feel we need to be able to heal thoroughly. We also deeply feel the wish/vocation to help others to heal too. We wish to create a space where people can go to for a day, a week, a year to get back in touch with the truth of themselves. A place to discover/rediscover their passions and their creativity, to learn to play again, to learn to relax again, and yes, if need be, to feel safe enough to break down and rebuild themselves within an environment that is gentle, supporting, accepting and non-judging. We have found that the healing powers of nature help this work immeasurably…hence our wish to make the Community work in deep Harmoni with nature and with each other.
So much chaos/fear is affecting the world these days. Many people feel very lost and insecure. The media is full of stories that make people want to hide away in isolation for fear of going out into a world that is apparently full of terrorists and paedophiles and numerous other people that would hurt you in some way as soon as look at you. The need for us all to return to seeing the truth in each other and to rediscover our connection to ourselves, each other and the Earth herself, is so very needed.
That is basically why we feel Harmoni Community needs to be created.